Monday 23rd October 2017

IFAP

The IFAP (Integrated-Family-Aid-Program)

“There are two lasting bequests we can hope to give our children.One is roots, the other one wings”!

    TARGET GROUPS

With the Integrated Family Aid Project (IFAP), we are targeting widows with dependent daughters. Insurgency and political unrest that lasted for ten years in Nepal, and the fact that many men are leaving their wife if she is not giving birth to a boy, is leaving a large number of mothers without husbands and their girls without a father.

Deepa Mother

Deepa Mother

Where a woman with children migrates from a rural to an urban area, there is a reluctance to acknowledge that she is a widow even where that is the case. Such women are then stigmatized and become the most vulnerable among the disadvantaged. All too often these women and their children (particularly their daughters) are forced to lead a life beset with material want and physical abuse. By targeting this group, we are also targeting the most underprivileged and vulnerable girls and women in Nepal…. those who either are already on the street or are likely to end up there – rag-picking, as bonded/child laborers’ or beggars, the victims of violence, exploitation, sexual abuse, forced prostitution or trafficking. The goal of our work is to intervene before the women and girls find themselves in such circumstances.

 

    OUR PHILOSOPHY

We are approaching these challenges in a holistic way, which is pragmatic, direct to the beneficiary, un-bureaucratic, de-institutionalized and cost effective.

Group Photo

Sabitri Mother

We are setting up our target groups in the midst of a community because we believe that this is the best way to reintegrate them back into society and to aid/prepare them to become independent and socially adapted adults. What we mean when we say ‘holistic’ is that we are considering all aspects of the human being and her inter-connectedness and inter-dependence, her constant interplay with her natural and social environment. We aim to treat the situational challenges by looking at the causes of the problems not just the symptoms.

Adaptability has always been the key for survival of the human race and this is the key for the success of our target-groups. Children have a strong ability to adapt to situations in order to survive. A child who has been institutionalized for a longer period might lose her ability to adapt, her creativity, and will become dependent. Children who are in institutions and orphanages may well have to leave when they reach the age of 16/18 and may
well not be prepared to cope with independence and the potential for ‘problems` that reappears and they could be faced with exploitation, abuse, violence, drugs and prostitution once again. Our approach aims to strengthen their ADAPTABILITY and to make them INDEPENDENT.

THE CONCEPT

The first such IFAP-Family was established in the year 2000 and this with a young destitute widow with five dependent daughters. We provided this family with adequate rental accommodation, a garden, and a sufficient monthly living allowance. We are also meeting the cost of decent schooling for the girls and in due course, we will arrange for them to receive vocational training or tertiary studies when the time comes. The family lives independently from our organization, as a “Self-Organizing-Entity” , yet enjoys all of the advantages we offer:

Geeta Mother

Geeta Mother

Healthcare, psychological care as well as advice and support in all aspects of life. In return we request that the mother admits some other girls from similar circumstances into her household, to be treated as members of the family.

Two of the oldest daughters of the first family got married after finishing their education.One has a job and is still living with her mother. Alina the youngest is a brilliant student and she received a “Scholarship” and is now studying for “Diploma-Nurse” in Australia.

The mother of this family is working and we no longer in need of support. All members of this family are self-sufficient and independent by now.

 Six successive such Families have been established over the years and all the beneficiaries have benefitted enormously. Being able to enjoy a safe, secure and loving family environment has done wonders for them all. They are filled with self-confidence and all are respected and appreciated members of their community, naturally integrated into the social-fabric of the community.

DilMaya Mother

Dil Maya Mother

In the year 2017 we are counting seven such families with a total of 49 beneficiaries.

A total of 35 IFAP beneficiaries are undergoing or have completed vocational-training and number of them found a job and got married.

Once the beneficiaries have completed their education and are undergoing “Vocational-Training”, they will be transferred to our “Cross-Road-House”. In this way new beneficiaries can be admitted into the respective IFAP families. This natural cycle enables us to admit a number of new beneficiaries each year.

In the year 2017 for example, a total of 17 of our beneficiaries are going to move to the “Crossroad-House”. Accordingly eleven girls who are living in the HUB (all newly admitted girls will first stay in the HUB for a time of adaption) can be integrated into the IFAP-Families.

The amount that is required to provide for such one family-member per day is  € 2.50,-. This will amount to Euro 912.50,- per year. Currently (2017) a family of eight members will require Euro 7.300,-.

This money will benefit the families directly. SOS Bahini’s whole network of support is already in place for the support of these families. The beneficiaries are receiving free healthcare including dental care and counseling if needed. Our social workers are frequently visiting the families and schools. The mothers of each family are meeting with the management on a regular base to discuss all issues with regard to the families and their needs. Each family is electing two Captains amongst them. These Captains will voice the concerns of the beneficiaries and regular meetings are taking place with the management and our social workers. All the beneficiaries are regularly visiting the “HUB”” for recreational activities, tuition classes and awareness programs.

Krishna Mother

Krishna Mother

Each Saturday all our beneficiaries are joining the HUB for “Family-day”, this is a day of social interaction were all our beneficiaries are united. All are sharing lunch together and a number of recreational activities, like dance, art, games and the like are taking place.

 This is day of fun, joy and social interaction were around 90 of our beneficiaries are united as “one-loving-family.

 This too is an innovative project developed by “SOS Bahini”in our aim to educate and empower deprived girls and women with the skills and confidence necessary to live a life in safety and in dignity!

 

   SELECTION CRITERIAS

An “Selection-Committee” composed of five experienced social workers is in place. All are thoroughly familiar with the social fabric of this society, the complexity of the caste issue and the complicated process in selecting a new family.

Krishna Mother

Krishna Mother

Most important is the character of the mother and her ability and “Good-Heartedness” to care for all the children likewise and not to discriminate between her own daughters and the foster-children entrusted to her.

Funding is targeted to widows or single mothers who have no partner. Where a woman we support does form a new marriage or partnership, her new partner is expected to take charge of supporting her family. Women with only daughters to care for are prioritized, as they tend to be the neediest in a society where women and girls tend to be devalued.

Despite progress over the last decade, girls and women remain the majority of Nepal’s unhealthy, unfed, uneducated, exploited and abused!

We are determined to change this sad and intolerable truth and the IFAP-PROJECT is our response to help the most vulnerable to live a life in safety and dignity!

Without your support nothing of this would be possible. Only hand in hand can we do!

Thank you!

Raymond Lindinger (Founder)

 

IFAP Family DillmayaAcharya established in the year 2005

Dilmaya stems from a village 30km from Pokhara.

In the year 2004 Dilmaya and her husband were struck by lightning while working in the fields. Her husband died immediately and Dilmaya had minor injuries and remained deaf on one ear.

Dilmaya has four daughters aged Bipana 6, Samjana 8, Saphana 10 and Kolpana12 at the time when the father died. With the demise of the sole bread earner, the family was in dire straitsand this is how Dillmaya was referred by the municipality found her way to “SOS Bahini”. She and her daughters were admitted soon after her application in the year 2005.

Ever since, Dilmaya was a wonderful, caring and loving mother for all the children that joined this family over the years.

Only the youngest one, Bipana, is still living in this family and she too will be leaving soon. She has completed her school and after attending our “Bridge-course” for one year she will be moving to our “Crossroad-House” soon.

It is her aspiration to study Pharmacy and this provided that she will pass the entrance exam which is rather demanding.

The oldest, Kalpana now 23 years old, is a nurse. She married last year and gave birth to a little baby-boy recently.

Sapana now 21 years of age is a nurse as well and she found a good job at the Ayurvedic-Clinic in Pokhara.

Samjhana now 20 ears of age, is studying Hotel-Management in the second year and she is living in the “Crossroad-House”.

The current members in this family are the following:

  • Dilmaya Acharya- Mother aged 41
  • Bibana Acharya aged 18 (she will be moving to the CRH
  • Sabina B.K. aged 15 (Class 7)
  • Binita Ranabhat aged 15 (class 7)
  • Ansu B.K. aged 14 (class 7)
  • Manisha Nepali  aged 18 ( she too will be joining the CRH soon)
  • Sniha Rijal  aged 12 (class 5)
  • Bidhya Ranabhat aged 10 (class 3)

All family members are enjoying good health, they are happy and all are good and disciplined students .More over all are participating in creative and empowering activities such as Karate, Dance-classes, Art-classes and many other proactive programs that  are organized for them by

“SOS Bahini”.

Soon we will have two vacancies in this family and to new girls that are currently living in our “Eco-Village” will join this family.

Thanks to this innovative concept of rotation we will be able to admit nine new beneficiaries in the “Eco-Village” in the year 2017.

 Thank you for your support for this unique and successful project!

Raymond Lindinger (Founder)

 IFAP-Family 2.First established in the year 2005

Deepa B.K. Age: 40

Deepa-Mother stems from a village around 80km distance from Pokhara.

As the tradition has it in Nepal she got married at the age of 16 and moved to the house of her husband’s family. Deepa gave birth to three girls, namely:Jyoti 20, Anuza 18 and Suzata 12.(Age:May 2017)

Her husband was a hardworking man and a caring father. He worked as a teacher and the family owned enough land to grow rice, vegetables and to keep some life stock to sustain the family.

In the year 2004, at the time Deepa was pregnant with Suzata,  her Husband was diagnosed with cancer. The subsequent medical treatment impoverished the family and when Deepa’s husband died one year later all the land had been sold to pay for the Hospital and medical expenses.

In absence of any social security and any support from their relatives, Deepa and her three daughters found themselves in an utterly critical condition.

Deepa was referred to “SOS Bahini” and she and her daughters were admitted in the year 2005. In the same year “Deepa-Family” was established and ever since,“Deepa Mommy” has been a loving and caring “Mom” for a number of girls.

Her two oldest daughters have both moved to the “Crossroad-House”. Jyoti is studying “Hotelmanagement” and Sujata recently completed college. She aspires to become a “Physiotherapist” and this provided that she will pass the entrance exam.

Two more girls that lived in this family for many years recently finished primary school and moved to the “Crossroad-House”. Parbati aged 17; she is preparing for the entrance exam for the study of “Nurse”. She will only be able to do this if she is successful in receiving a “scholarship” and we now actively searching for a sponsor who is willing to make Parbati’s dream come true! The three year study for nurse will require approximately Euro 4000,- per year (total Euro 12.000,-)

Rogina Aged 17, decided to study management and she will join college with the beginning of the new school-year in two months from now.

Here are the names of the current eight “Family-Members”:

  • Deepa B.K. Mother
  • RasilaKarki -Age 10 /Class 3
  • Sujata B.K. -Age 12/class 5 (Deepa’s daughter)
  • Shreejana Sharma –age 14/class 9
  • Sabitri Ghimire –age 14/class 10
  • Suzata B.K.-age 13/class 6
  • Bhawana Sharma 18/college (she will be moving to the “Crossroad-house”
  • Roshni B.K.-age 14/class 8

All the beneficiaries in this family are happy and thriving! Safety, care, family-bonds and love are assuring a “CHILDHOOD” free from fear, abuse and exploitation for all of them.

We care for these girls in the best way possible, but we can only do this with your support, today and tomorrow!

Many things have  approved in Nepal over the past ten years, but girls and women are still the majority of the abused, exploited, malnourished, uneducated and stunted. We are determined to change this intolerable truth and we are taking action! The IFAP-Project is one of our innovative and successful projects to prevent worse forms of abuse and violence and give a chance to the most vulnerable girls and women in Nepal!

 

 

 

For further information please contact:

liraylux@gmail.com
fprum@pt.lu
sosbahini@gmail.com